Tag: divorce

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I am Not the Buddha

The following quote by poet Tyler Knott Gregson came up on my Facebook memories this week… “To begin again, sometimes you have to take life down to the studs, knock down all the walls, and pull out the insulation that kept you from the world. You must get dirty and feel the ache in the muscles you used to pull the house down around … Read More I am Not the Buddha

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Day 308/365 Are You REALLY Okay?

Once, when I was twenty-two, I was duct taped to a board for several hours. [I thought that might get your attention.] Okay fine, I am sure it wasn’t actually duct tape…coulda been some kind of a strap, I suppose….and maybe it was actually some kind of spinal board EMT’s use. It probably wasn’t a couple of hours, either, but it sure felt that … Read More Day 308/365 Are You REALLY Okay?

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Day 306/365 A Nice Ring To It

The other day, while out at breakfast with friends, I noticed one of them wearing a really beautiful engagement ring. She has been married for a couple of years now…so the ring wasn’t the news of the day or anything. It’s just that I happened to notice it, and to think of my own beautiful engagement ring…which has been tucked away for over four … Read More Day 306/365 A Nice Ring To It

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Day 293/365 Fear is a Needy Neighbor, Maybe I Should Fix Her Up

When you have dealt with fear a lot over a short period of time, there are some benefits – the biggest one being, it is not an unfamiliar sensation. You don’t have to go through that, “Oh shit, what is this feeling? inner dialogue.  You know…and you usually understand why it is being revealed in a particular moment or circumstance. For those of us who … Read More Day 293/365 Fear is a Needy Neighbor, Maybe I Should Fix Her Up

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Day 269/365 He was She

you were so afraid of my voice i decided to be afraid of it too -rupi kaur The other day I went into a bit of a tailspin, worried over the idea that I may have offended someone I care about. It was silly, really…but boy, did I get whipped up. I realized later that while the idea that I may have hurt his … Read More Day 269/365 He was She

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Day 229/365 A Virtual Family

There we were, a virtual family… Sunday night the girls had an impromptu change in their schedule by spending the night at their dad’s on a school night. When it came time for bed, Ruby was missing me. Thanks to FaceTime I accompanied her into the bathroom to brush her teeth, and chatted with her while she changed into her pjs. I stayed “with” … Read More Day 229/365 A Virtual Family

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Day 228/365 It May Be What You Want, but It Was Never What You Wanted

The thing about divorce is that even when it is absolutely what a couple wants, it was never what they wanted. A few months after my separation I wrote a letter about how I was feeling, and I addressed how my loved ones (who were struggling to know how to help me) could help. It was a private letter initially, but about a year or so … Read More Day 228/365 It May Be What You Want, but It Was Never What You Wanted

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Day 202/365 Happy Noniversary

Today would have been my fifteenth wedding anniversary.  My Ex and I have been divorced (more or less) for four years now. I don’t regret my marriage, not at all…and I don’t regret my divorce either. Of course, divorce was not a part of the plan. (If you’re following this blog you can imagine that things have moved in a direction far from any plan … Read More Day 202/365 Happy Noniversary

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Day 151/365 Your Home is Your Sanctuary

It wasn’t until after I moved out of my marital home that I realized how far from a sanctuary it had become for me. Once I left, coming home at the end of the day filled me with a sensation of calm. Home was a place to unwind, to relax….to be free. Looking back I realize that for so long I’d held my breath … Read More Day 151/365 Your Home is Your Sanctuary

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Day 146/365 The Other Woman

I am about to embark on my fourth annual Maine vacation with Monica, Austin, and all of our children. It is sometimes hard to believe that I have already been a “single lady” for four years. Other times my marriage feels like a lifetime ago…so much has happened. Most of my close friends are a part of a couple, which I would imagine could … Read More Day 146/365 The Other Woman

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Day 128/365 The Opposite of What You Know is Also True

A while back I read an excerpt from “Buddhist Boot Camp” by Timber Hawkeye.  The gist of it is this – The opposite of what you know is also true. He went on to explain – “No matter how certain we are of our version of the truth, we must humbly accept the possibility that someone who believes the exact opposite could also be … Read More Day 128/365 The Opposite of What You Know is Also True

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Day 126/365 FOFU or FOLA

Back in 2011 I was asked to be one of the very first participants in something called The Revelation Project.  It was the brainchild of two friends of mine, Monica and Robyn*. The initial idea behind it was to empower women through photography.  It has since morphed into a full journey of self-discovery through life coaching and journaling.  When they asked me to participate, … Read More Day 126/365 FOFU or FOLA