Category: Parenting

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Day 308/365 Are You REALLY Okay?

Once, when I was twenty-two, I was duct taped to a board for several hours. [I thought that might get your attention.] Okay fine, I am sure it wasn’t actually duct tape…coulda been some kind of a strap, I suppose….and maybe it was actually some kind of spinal board EMT’s use. It probably wasn’t a couple of hours, either, but it sure felt that … Read More Day 308/365 Are You REALLY Okay?

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Day 296/365 Can You Still Hold Me?

“Pick me up,” said my soon to be nine year old daughter. She looked up at me and smiled. It struck me that she hadn’t asked me to do that in a long time, and…that I didn’t know if I could. Something about the way she looked at me told me that she wondered the same – Mom, can you still hold me? Time … Read More Day 296/365 Can You Still Hold Me?

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Day 289/365 One-couches and Sugar-muffins

This morning I was making pancakes when Beau sidled up next to me. Taking her cue from me, she grabbed a pancake in her hand and began eating it as she leaned up against the counter.  “Mmmm, this takes like a sugar-muffin,” she said. “A sugar-muffin?” I asked. “Yeah, you know the muffins that have frosting…oh, whoops…I mean, a cupcake.” “Ahh, yes…that is a … Read More Day 289/365 One-couches and Sugar-muffins

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Day 270/365 I’m Sorry, and also…I Love You

She was distraught….and also incredulous. “I apologized with all of my heart, and she just said, ‘kay. Tell her she has to say she’s sorry, too. That’s how it works.” Is it? We have all felt the disrespect of a hollow apology. Starting when we were very little and hurt by another child, we may have heard our first toneless and disconnected, “Sorry!” Some … Read More Day 270/365 I’m Sorry, and also…I Love You

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Day 260/365 The Lessons We Don’t Teach

After I picked the girls up at the bus stop this afternoon, I had to bring them back to work with me. This happens from time to time, and they actually don’t mind it. Afterward I treated them to a dinner out. {Side story – One night the girls and I had just finished up a meal at a restaurant. On our way out … Read More Day 260/365 The Lessons We Don’t Teach

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Day 255/365 Sex Is A Funny Word

“Is VIRGINAL a word?” my eleven year old asked me at 7am this morning. “Yes,” I said. We were getting ready for school, and I had some Christmas music playing in the background. “What does it mean?” she asked. Ummmmm….(Gulp, oh God, really? I had barely had any coffee.) “Well, in this (Christmas) context, it is referring to the baby Jesus having been born … Read More Day 255/365 Sex Is A Funny Word

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Day 158/365 Island Adventure Part II

When I left off, the girls and I had gone off to bed. We were exhausted, and well…it was dark. Literally. There is no electricity here. There is a queen sized bed in a loft, which one accesses by ladder, and there is a queen sized futon on the first floor.  The loft has only a rope “railing” (more of a decorative feature, really). … Read More Day 158/365 Island Adventure Part II

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Day 142/365 Children Are Amazing, and Coffee is Important

A conversation at 8am… Sitting on the porch this morning with my girls, taking in the view. I was enjoying my coffee (no, I did not give it up for my cleanse – nobody wants that, trust me). Louie, our lab, was chewing on an enormous log, as he is want to do. Beau (age 11): If I could have a superpower, it would be extra … Read More Day 142/365 Children Are Amazing, and Coffee is Important

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Day 141/365 It’s Okay If You’re Not Okay

It starts early. Well meaning people telling us how to feel (and how not to feel). When we are little and we take a fall, our loved ones immediately tell us, “You’re okay!!” before they even give us an opportunity to assess the situation ourselves. Am I okay? They seem to think so. Maybe I don’t feel okay. Maybe I feel scared, or hurt, … Read More Day 141/365 It’s Okay If You’re Not Okay

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134/365 Help

“Can I help?” she asked, sidling up to me in the kitchen at Miskiania. “That’s okay, I’ve got it,” I replied. I was making breakfast for twelve people and I wanted to just bang it out myself. “Please?” she asked again, looking at me pleadingly. “Okay, grab the whisk,” I said. She beamed. In that moment I realized before long she may stop asking … Read More 134/365 Help

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Day 128/365 The Opposite of What You Know is Also True

A while back I read an excerpt from “Buddhist Boot Camp” by Timber Hawkeye.  The gist of it is this – The opposite of what you know is also true. He went on to explain – “No matter how certain we are of our version of the truth, we must humbly accept the possibility that someone who believes the exact opposite could also be … Read More Day 128/365 The Opposite of What You Know is Also True

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Day 115/365 Doing Our Best

In my line of work as a childcare/preschool Administrator, I work with many parents of young children. As a parent of two myself, I can completely relate to their struggles. This was not always the case. Years ago, before I had my own children (which is of course when one possesses the most kick-ass parenting skills) I was a caregiver for a group of … Read More Day 115/365 Doing Our Best