Day 165/365 Ed’s Serenity

My Uncle Ed has been a sober and active member of AA for fifty-two years.

He has seen and heard a lot throughout those years, and he is incredibly succinct at cutting through bullshit, and getting to the point.

I am sure most of you are familiar with the serenity prayer:

God grant me the serenity 

To accept the things I cannot change; 

Courage to change the things I can; 

And wisdom to know the difference… 

Many years ago Ed offered me what he referred to as the abbreviated version of the serenity prayer, which was…

“Fuck it.”

We had a good laugh, but you know what? He wasn’t really kidding.

A lot of things can be dealt with by applying those two words.

Here are two types of circumstances in which applying “Fuck it” could be immensely helpful…

The first is in letting go. As in, this is not something I should be putting any more of my time and energy into…

Fuck it. I’m letting it go. Enough.

The second would apply to that which I am willing to go the extra mile, to give more than I think makes sense, because it’s so important to me…

Fuck it, I’m doing this. I’m not giving up.

I think some of our greatest pitfalls in life are the result of not making the proper distinction between those two varieties of Fuck Its.

Something to consider, no?

May we all recognize the times in life in which applying Ed’s serenity prayer is wise.
More importantly,

May we seldom confuse the “letting go” Fuck It with the “all in” Fuck It.

Tragic mistake.

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